Whats my reflection...?!

           I did my blog this semester ( 9 weeks ) on love. Manly couple love , but some family , friend and envy love.  People say that they know what love is , and that they could talk about it , or even blog about it all the time , but after having to do this blog I beg to differ. There are  many types of love – which means there are many types of deffinitions. You can search love on the internet and page after page of websites will show up , but In my personal opinion ; love is that one feeling that you can not put into words , you just can not tag it with a deffinintion.

           I had the most fun doing the interview blog. I asked my those questions to my mom , and she answered then honostly , and after asking her the variety of questions about love , and seeing how her face just lights up when she talks about how In love she is…it was nice , and I would say if you light up like that , you are deffinitly in love. The most interesting blog about love that I did , was the one about internet love , and talking about , “ Can you fall in love with someone you have never met in person?”. Depending on how you look at love will vary your answer to that question. I personally do not think that you can fall in love with a person you have never met , because the computer in a way is kind of like a mask. You can be someone totally different in real life , face to face then the person you are saying you are between a  computer screen.

          You know all these years from the time I was little til the time I am now considered an adult ( age 18 ) I have always thought that men and womens view on love where really different , but we had to do a compare and contrast blog , and I did exactly that. Men and women suprisingly want the same things when it come to love. Both want to feel needed and loved of course , but not to the point where it gets clingy. Some of the differences I also learned was that men don not want to talk about their problems right then and there , but women do , and that is what causes  a lot of the fighting because neither men or women come to an agreement on when to fix the problem.

          This is going to be my last blog and I am not going to continue this anymore . It was fun while it lasted but like I had mentioned you think that you can talk and know what love is , but I just can not continue righting about soemthing , when it all comes down to a personal opinion about what you feel .  This was fun while it lasted , and I learned some new things from all the research I have had to do like…the part of your brain that gets triggered when you are in love is the same part of your brain that is triggered when you do cocaine. How irronic right?

Off topic... SUMMER 2011*

SUMMER 2011


I have been in school for 12 years , but i am not a senior. After Kindergartin , my mom put me in a grade between Kindergartin and First grade called TK-1. I am only in the 11th grade , but by now most kids my age (18) are graduated after doing there 12 yrs. I am making it sound like prison , but school is not that bad at all. Of course you will always have drama , well sometimes , its just depends on the people you associate with. But inbetween all those wrong people that you run into at school you will end up with atleast one great friend that you will b friends with forever.

You go into high school wanting to be everyones friend , and thinking that anyone that is nice to you is your friend/ friends , but reality is , you will not be friends with or even associate with more then half the people you meet in school. School is exhausting , you get up at 7:30 a.m and get home at 4:00 p.m , come home do chores , eat , shower , homework , then bed , and without a doubt in betweenall that responceibilities you are watching t.v , on the computer , or phone , or even at a sport you enjoy , or out with a friend.

Being a teenger is hard! But my 11th grade grade year is creeping to an end , and my senior years is right aroud the corner. Ever years passes with plenty of good , and plenty of bad memeories ; but you will always learn to appreciate them because they get you where you are and were you want to be. My senior year next year i am going to do everything. I am going to do everything from Powder puff , prom , homecomming , buy a year book , and anything else that i can do i am going to do it...i mean hello why not ?!

In 6 weeks will be the beginning of summer 2011 , the summer of hanging out with my great friends and family , a summer filled at the beach with tanning spray all over me , and hopefully be lucky enough to get hired at anyjob openings i will and have applied to , get a car maybe , and anything else i want and can do. When i come back next year , i am going to have all smiles on all the time , and enjoy my last year in school , because after this summer , after next school year i am thrown into the real world and there is nothing i can do about it...I AM PREPARED!

Men are from Mars , Women are from Venus...

Love : many different types , and in a way different kinds of meanings. Everyone has there opinion about love , whether they believe in it , or whether it just be there view on the meaning. But there is only two types of species on Earth , Men and Women , do they have different view and out looks about love well lets compare and contrast...


MEN:
- When things start to get difficult in a relationship , and thier stress level goes up , they go to their "cave" , and withdrawl themsleves.
-Men value power , competence , and achievement in many things but also relationships.
-Men feel loved when the feel needed.
-Men want to feel trusted and appreciated.
-Men think that a way to score good with a women , is to do something big!

WOMEN:
-Women want to feel like the man is always listening.
-When women share there problems with othere , its a sign of trust.
-Women when stressed , become more overwhellmed and want to get more invloved and talk about it.
-Women do not want to give advice to a man.
-A womens self-esteem falss and rises like waves.

TOGETHER
All in all men and women are two different types of sex , two different types of people , and have different standards and expectations ; but theres that one thing that brings us as men and women together...LOVE! We all like to feel needed , appreciated , wanted , etc etc. So if a man ever tells you or a women ever tells you you do not know what they need or want , just say why yes , yes i do ;)!

nature v.s nurture * how do you feel about love?

Everyone has different opinions about love , so thats why i asked my beautiful intelligent "in love" mother about love , and how she feels about it. So here are the questions i asked her , and her responce to them.



1.Q: Do you believe in love? why or why not?
   A: Yes, because I have a wonderful husband that I am in love with. He is amazing in everyway possible.

2.Q:What do you think is the deffinition of love in your opinion?
   A: I think the deffinition of love is when two people are there for eachother and support eachther no matter what the situation is.

3.Q: Do you think the is more then one kind of love ,a nd is so how many , and if no why do you think there is only one kind of love?
   A: Yes i think there is many different kinds of love. The love for your souse , is different from the love you have for your children and also your friends.

4.Q: Why or why not do you think that marriage is the way to show your commitment and love to your partener?
   A: I do not think that you need to be married to show your love and commitment to another. It is all about how you show your love to the other person and being there for him/her.

5.Q: Do you think we learn to love by nature or nurture ; why?
   A: I believe that love is taught (nurture) , reasons why i tohink that is because if you are loved ; shownlove as a child then you will learn how to love as you are grwing up.

6.Q: Is it possible in your opinion to fall in love with someone you have never met before - internet dating?
   A: No , i do not believe in falling in love with someone you have never met, because once you meet them they are a completely different person.

7.Q: How valuable is love to you?
   A: Very valuable , because without love in your life it would be a very lonely place to be.

8. Q: Could you fall out of love ; and if yes , why ; if no explain...
    A: Ido not think you can fall out of love with someone. Because when you are in love it is an amazing feeling , that never goes away. If you fall out of love with someone , i think it was just lust , not love.

9. Q: How would you explain the difference between love and lust?
    A: a) Lust is something that fills a void for being lonely , and just wanting someone there in your life for a short period of time. b) Love is something that is magical , it is perfct ; when you love someone you cannnot be without them. They are always on your mind , you always want them around , and nothing they do bothers you.

10. Q: Have oyu ever been in love , or are you still ; if so how does it feel , if not have you ever experienced lust?
      A: Yes ihave been in love and i am still in love with an amazing man. It feels wonderful , the greatest feeling ever. Yes i also have been in lust because i thought i needed someone in my life so i would not be lonely and needed to filla void. It was wrong , and i have learned that it is okay to be yourself.


In a way after , interviewd my mom , i felt close to her. Its amazing to see how someone in love lights up , and how there eyes sparkle , and they smile none stop. Love is one powerful word , because it has such a powerful meening. But the question that stood out the most to my mom , was number 5 - the nature v.v nurture question , so let me ask you ; how do you think love is"taught" by nature , or nurture?

Its always your choice in the end...

      Love over the internet , could you really find a connection that deeply with someone you have never met in person? Dating websites such as Match.com , Zoosk , and eHarmony are all dating websites , that promise a connection between two people that have never met before and that are both searching for the same thing LOVE . Men and women are both star struck by the idea of falling in love and having that fairy tail ending we all see when we are little.

      

        When  people start “talking” to each other like that its most  likely because they are physically attracted to that person , and or sexually attracted to that person without even knowing who , how , or what about them. From my point of view dating websites are slim to none when it comes down to falling in love , but creating some sort of relationship such as  friendship , that could work and even possibly be the beginning to something more then just friends , because you are slowly but surely taking the time to get to know this person from the inside out instead of the outside in.

       I have never internet dated , but I know people that have and they debate all the time whether to just give up or to keep trying because after years of doing internet dating they still have not found what they are looking for , but why could that be ; not because they are not special enough but maybe because when you internet date you can put in a “requirement” of the type of person you are looking for in both looks and personality. There is no such thing as your perfect dream person , and when you try to paint a picture of what you want , you will shut down anything that is not just that , which can hurt you in the end because of being to selfish.

       Knowing what you want and finding the way to get it is always a challenge , and that is internet dating ; a challenge. I like the saying , “ love will find you , when you least expect it” and that is soooo true. So tell me , do you agree with internet dating , why or why not?

How to know...

• How do you love someone? 1. Be a good companion

Stay with your loved ones often, this will not only increase intimacy but also strengthen the belief in your mind that you love him. Do not multi-task while accompany him/her, put down your books, shut down your laptop or TV to focus on spending the quality time together. Remember to give her undivided attention.
2. Unconditioned Love
When you love someone, never expect anything in return. That is, you shouldn't expect even love in return. Remember, one can truly love another person just because he/she wants to and not because he/she has to.
3. Know your partner's favorite "Love Language"
Do they know you love them when you speak words of love? Or maybe they feel loved by your acts of service? Some people feel loved by receiving little gifts while others might like loving touches (a good night/morning kiss before sleep and upon awaken). Real love is not based on your preference but your partner's.
4. Support
Be supportive and assist to complete her important goals.
5. Do not compare
Do not compare her unfavorably with others. Instead brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
6. Admit and apologize if you are in the wrong
You're not too macho to say, "I'm sorry" if you are really in the wrong. In fact you'll be a much bigger man if you do apologize.
7. Appreciation
Appreciate the love you and your loved one share. Never take your love for granted. Every day you should be thankful that you are getting the chance to be with such an amazing and wonderful person, and make sure that they have plenty of reasons to be thankful that they are with you too. A relationship that is truly based on love can be hard to find, and you should always be grateful that the two of you have been brought together, and that you are both able to bring joy to each other's lives.
8. Lies Hurt
Don't ever lie to the one you love, tell the truth. Remember when you tell one lie, you have to use many more to cover it, once it is disclosed, things will get complicated.

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Love-Someone&id=5538710

There is not one specific way to “show” or “prove” your love for someone. Some people like actions better then just words , for example if your partner says that he or she is tired , make sure the house is quiet so he or she can sleep peacefully. If doing that , they may find that as their proof for love. But now , how do you know if you are in love? People mistake the wrong things for being in love , and they end up getting hurt by that person , then for the rest of the time they are scared from that experience and scared to go out and try again. Everyone always thinks that what can go wrong will go wrong , but if you keep that attitude you are doing nothing but keeping that mind set. You can make happen what you want to , so keep a positive attitude.

After all the dating and relationships , you start to feel like its time to find the right one. So lets say you start to date , and you have been seeing this certain person for awhile now. Your mind starts to wonder , thinking things such as “Am I in love”? well some things that could possibly help you figure that out are the following…

• You want to spend all your time with this person.
• You talk to and text this person many times during the course of a day.
• You get nervous and anxious when you meet this person.
• You feel a strong need to dress up nicely and groom yourself better when you meet this person.
• You take a keen interest in this person's family members and childhood stories.
• You feel like buying this person gifts from time to time.
• You remember small details about this person that no one else does.
• You are sexually attracted to this person.
• You derive comfort and support from being around this person and feel that he/she can help you overcome your problems.
• You wish to share your achievements and happiness with this person.
• You feel totally relaxed and composed with this person, and also feel that you can be yourself completely.
• You completely trust this person, and do not feel that he/she will betray you.
• You feel a little jealous when you feel this person is giving someone else more importance than you.
• You are willing to give up certain things you love or enjoy doing, in order to please this person.
• You look forward to talking to or meeting this person after a long hard day.
• You know that this person will be there for you when you are in urgent need of something.
• You do not mind public displays of affection with this person.
• You do not mind sharing intimate details and secrets about your life with this person.
• You are not afraid of committing yourself to this person, and you also think about being with them in the future.
•  Lastly, when this person tells you that he/she loves you, you have a strong urge to say it back as well, without feeling awkward about it.

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/how-to-know-if-you-are-in-love.html

So do not be scared to go out and try new things , take a chance and take this list , date and figure out how to love , and then think am I in love…

How (LOVE)ly*

Who do you love? Why do you love them? It has been proven that people crave to be loved and to find true love. Love is pastion , love is feeling , love is envy and love is patients. Supposibly , each person falls in love approximatly seven different times before finding  the right person… Speaking of the right person , does that meen marriage , Do you think that in order to prove your love and devotion to the person whom you are in love with , that you need to get married?

                Just because you have fallen in love with a certain someone , do you think that meens you should get married , and committee to eachother with vales? I think that is what perople were taught to believe , but in my opinion marriage is always a nice way to say “I love you” , but it is niot neccesarly needed to prove that you love someone. Just because you do not have a ring on our finger does not meen love as powerful and menipulative as it is  , is not there. My biggest question is , can you fall out of love  , and if you can not , then does that meen you were never in love with that person in the way that you thought.

                There are different types of  love , but today I am talking about couple love. At the age of 18 , I have said that I have fallen in love once , which was my longest on and off relationship of 6 years. Now people are first to judge and tell you “no , you do not know what love is…” etc etc. But who  really does know , only you can know if you are in love and how it feels to you ; have you ever been in love , or are you in love? Great couples such as Will Smith and his lady Jada Pinkett , make people want realtionships ; they have sucha great bound and really know how to make there realtionship work. Previously on Oprahs show , here was what Will had to say about m,akeing there realtionship work , maybe you could use this to help your realtionship if you have one!

             
Will Smith, one of Hollywood's hottest leading men, married his leading lady Jada Pinkett in 1997. Although this talented twosome has been married for almost a decade, Will told Oprah  that they have to constantly work to keep their relationship strong and fresh.

Will: We really study our relationship. I figure I work maybe 70 hours a week on movies…and a lot of people think that you can spend that much time doing your job but then probably 14 minutes a week working on your relationship. So, we knew very early that that wasn't the case…that [our marriage] was something that we were absolutely, positively going to have to work on.

Oprah: So there's scheduled "working on" time?

Will: Every day. You know, you're a new person every day, you know? So we try to pay attention to the changes and talk about everything.


For you see, each day I love you more
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
~Rosemonde Gerard
http://www.quotegarden.com/love.html

What is love?

         Love and what it is had been one of the hardest question to answer in man kind for centuries. Depending on context , love can be of different varieties. Psycologists say that love has to have three components ; intamcy , commitment , and passion , and in the ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. There are many different types of love , family love , friend love , relationship love , envy love etc. The urge to fall in love , is like sex and hunger , a primitive , biological drive.
       “ Love  makes life confusing , but without love would you really want to live?” From the time we are kids we watch things that revolve around love , even cartoons ; we get it stuck in are heads from the beginning that love is what we are seaking. Some search for it , and some “lets love find them” , but the question I want to know is , do you think the word love gets thrown around to much , without a meening , without feeling? People crave to be loved , but whats so fasinating about it?
           Love triggers the same part as your brain , as if you were to take cocaine. Some say love is evil , and some say it’s the best thing that could ever happen to you , but cocaine breaks you down and is bad , and addictive ; so what does that make love , if are brain reacts the same to it as it does cocoaine? I have had love for plenty of things , and still do , so I would not say that love is evil , but if its not right then it can hurt. If you don’t love , can you be loved back?

8 letters , 3 words , 1 meening!

          LOVE- An emotional  feeling that comes from the heart and soul, and both  the mind and eyes. It lasts forever , not a day or two and always leaves you with a smile.

            I love you ; 8 letters , 3 words , and 1 meening.  Everybody loves someone or something , whether its an activity , a person , or a thing ; everyone loves something. In this piticulare post im talking about family love. I love my family more then I could possibly expalin , I don’t know were I would be without them. Even though we do not always get agree , and are totally all different individuals , and know exactkly how to piss eachother off ; that’s my family.

             I love my family because were quit odd. We sit at the dinner table and talk “inappropriate” , we fight over whom can turn their music up the loudest , who is going to to stay on the comouter or the Wii , who calls the bathroom first after a long day at the beach , and who is going to ask mom to do something or go somewhere. We joke around about my 10 yr. old brothers girlfriend  , my 13 yr. old brothers funny run , my parents in general , and my sisters for acting “slow” sometimes , but when we do it , we do it out of love.

                Love comes in many different types  -  family love , friend love , relationship love , admiring love , and enjoyment love. I choose to write about the types of love because everyone has that feeling , and has an opinion of it , so tell me , why do you love your family? What makes them special to you?Share a funny story that has happened in your family , that makes you laugh everytime you think about it!